1996

This is the first installment of a three-part series that will be rolled out during this summer and fall where I look back on my life (and society at the time) 10, 20, and 30 years ago. What was going on with me and the world back in 1996? Read on and pass me some Werthers…

Still from the Macarena music video from 1996

I can hear this image. And what else defined 1996?

OK, a lot more happened that year than just a viral song and dance, but this retrospective will be based not on all the major events that happened in ’96, but on the year in the life of yours truly. You may be wondering how I still remember some things from 30 years ago, in spite of all the things I’ve gone through since then that may or may not have affected my ability to remember old stuff. Simply put: I just do. Not saying I remember 1996 like it happened yesterday, but some memories still stand out for me.

Also, clothes from that year were so damn fun.

*A Young Artist* 

I was eleven years old during most of ’96 and started off the year in sixth grade. I started off the year the same way I started off 1995: a chubby, awkward introvert who liked to draw, read, and write. Except one new thing popped into my life in late ’95 that threw me into a tizzy. I’ll give you a hint of what that was: I’ll likely be done with it in 8-10 years. (And I just realized I’m closer to finishing it than I am from when it started. 😱)

Because I was a chubby, awkward, introverted kid, I was a target for bullies, although it eased up when I entered sixth grade. I don’t know why, but I was grateful to not deal with those asswipes as much as before. (Sadly, they’d be back on my ass in the 7th and 8th grade.) And because I was a chubby, awkward, introverted kid, I thought I’d be a loner in school that year. By the end of the 6th grade, however, I actually made some good friends, and they weren’t make-believe for a change. 😆 I also finished the 6th grade as a young artist of sorts. A drawing of mine that I had done in class would be featured in a local art exhibit. And one of my prose pieces would get published in my local newspaper. (That prose became my very first work to be published.) Sadly, that drawing is long gone, and I had hoped my published prose would be found in the newspaper’s archives online, but that newspaper doesn’t even have an online archive to begin with. 😖

*The Look*

(From left to right: an image from the Delia’s catalog that shows the kind of clothes I wore this year, an image on colorful teen fashion from Seventeen magazine, and an ad for Revlon–one of the brands us pre-teens and teens wore. All from 1996.)

I started reading Seventeen magazine this year; coincidentally, I began to dress up. (No pics of young me here, but my fashion sense from ’95 vs. ’96 is like night and day. I went from frumpy to less frumpy!) One look that was “in” was the baby tee and wide-legged pants. I couldn’t roll in baby tees then (they were practically crop tops and I didn’t have the body for crop tops), so I settled for (as what I called them) “semi-baby tees” that were fitted but long enough to conceal what I wanted concealed, if you know what I mean. And I thrived in wide-legged pants. Anyone who thinks the Zoomers came up with the wide-legged pants trend needs to brush up on their history and read an issue of Seventeen from 30 years ago; Gen X and elder millennials wore them first. About my only issue with them was that many of those pants/jeans were too long for me. So what us “shorties” did then was cuff them up to the length that worked for us, then stapled it so it wouldn’t come loose. (Side note: I was a shortie then, and still a shortie now.)

One great thing about being a pre-teen/teen during the mid-90s was that our It brands were drugstore brands. It worked out for me because where I lived, we didn’t have a Sephora (Sephora kids in the 90s? They didn’t arrive in the States till 1998), and I didn’t have the pockets for brands like Estee Lauder and Chanel. (Those brands were also seen as brands our moms and aunts wore, and that wasn’t cool to us.) We thrived on stuff from Cover Girl, Maybelline, Neutrogena, and Noxzema. And our “clean girl” look then was a slick or two of Lip Smackers (bubble gum and cherry cola flavors for me!) and a few dabs of pressed powder to keep our mugs matte and that was it. The Sephora-addicted teens today could never.

A lot more after the cut…

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Back To Basics – The 20th Anniversary

 

Happy 20th anniversary to my favorite album of 2006! Like she did with Stripped, Xtina served you everything in B2B: jazz, soul, rap beats, pop, kitsch, ballads, and vocals vocals vocals, all spread out on two discs. And her Baby Jane era was A TIME. I was also fortunate to attend her Back To Basics tour when she came to Oakland in 2007. (That show would be the first of four Xtina shows I’d attend over the years.)

My favorite non-single song from the album. Xtina’s vocals + lyrics honoring musical legends + beats by DJ Premier = 🔥🔥🔥

Hope she does something special to honor this milestone anniversary.

Happy International Childfree Day 🥳

A quote from Hollywood film legend Katharine Hepburn that reads: "I would have been a terrible mother because I'm basically a very selfish human being. Not that that has stopped most people going off and having children."

Us childfree by choice may not get special sales events or merch of Hallmark cards celebrating our chilldfree-ness today, but at least we don’t have to worry about kids in the end because we chose not to have them. Happy International Childfree Day to us childfree* peeps! 🥂

*Those who gave birth to kids and no longer have to live with them are not and will never be childfree, thus they can’t celebrate with us. I shouldn’t have to bring this up but I’ve seen some parents on Bluesky lately legit calling themselves “childfree” just because their kids have moved out of the house. No. They’re parents for life and they already have their own day.

It’s Lipstick Day! 💄

Some of my all-time favorite lip products!

As a lippie hound, today’s my day to shine (and shimmer and gloss and pucker up) for it’s National Lipstick Day! Some collect shoes, some collect figurines, while I…well, I don’t necessarily collect lip products, but I know I have plenty in my stash, and that’s all I’ll say! 😜

The ones you see in the header pic are my all-time favorites. As luck would have it, most of those lippies have been discontinued, and I can’t even find dupes for a few of them because those particular shades and finishes are now out of style. Apparently, shimmery lavender nudes and glittery glosses are not hot these days. From top left to bottom: Urban Decay Vice lipstick in “Asphyxia”, Marc Jacobs Beauty lipstick in “No Angel”, Pat McGrath Mattetrance Lipstick in “1995”, Urban Decay Vice lipstick in “Trance”, NARS Powermatte Lip Pigment in “American Woman”, Pat McGrath OpuLust lip gloss in “Naked Rose”, and NARS Lip Pencil in “Bad Girl”. Only two of these are still around. 😞 The OG Marc Jacobs lipstick cases were exquisite. And if only the OpuLust lip gloss line can make a comeback!

If I were to pick one from that bunch to have an endless supply, it would have to be the UD Vice in “Trance”. It’s not advertised as a nude (it’s a medium-tone pinky-brown), but it works well as one with my light-medium neutral beige skin tone. It also gets bonus points for its metallic finish, and I lean towards lippies with more of a satin/shine finish over matte finishes. I’ve seen a few shades from MAC’s Frost Lipstick line that are decent dupes for “Trance”, but I’m still clinging onto what’s left of the original for dear life. “Trance” was as close to perfection in a lipstick for me. It was never drying, lasted up until I ate something (unless if it’s a liquid matte or a lip stain, lipsticks don’t really last that long), and had great color payoff.

Also, I find it amusing that Lipstick Day shares the same day as Chicken Wing Day. If I were to pick one lippie from my all-timers to last through a feast of chicken wings, it would be the NARS Powermatte. That baddie will last through almost everything.

Happy Birthday, Playgirl! (And A Special Sale)

cover of my eBook The Playgirl

Not even an avalanche of assignments from my short summer class* can stop me from celebrating the born day of my 1st eBook. And in honor of her 3rd birthday today, from now until Friday 7/31/26, you can read her for FREE! You can get your freebie at Smashwords or Apple Books (more outlets coming soon), and if you like modern, sensational women’s/LGBTQ+ fiction that’s also free, I got your book right here! 

Happy birthday, Playgirl! 🥳🎂

*Those assignments are keeping me away from posting here, though, if you haven’t noticed. I have 2 1/2 weeks left of the course, and then I’ll have two full weeks to crank out my long-form nonsense before I start another round of online classes for the fall semester.

Now Playing (7.4.26)

My Song Of The Day and you know why:

Listen closely to the lyrics. Things really haven’t changed since 1985, has it? It’s two-plus minutes of woke, and seven minutes of funk and Prince shaking his ass in nothing but lace pants.

And because I refuse to let MAGA trash taint this day, I’ll be rewatching this. There was a time when I enjoyed celebrating the 4th of July, and President Obama and First Lady Michelle are two reasons why. Plus, Xtina is in this!

🚨SALE ALERT!!🚨

cover of my eBook The Playgirl

It’s the birth month of my first eBook The Playgirl, and she will be part of Smashwords’ Summer/Winter Book Sale all July! Now through July 31, 2026, you can get a copy of my book for half-off its original sale price! The sale is exclusive to Smashwords.com, and if you’re up for a modern, sensational women’s/LGBTQ+ fiction, have I got the book for you!

***Link to my eBook***

PS: look out for a special sale on its birth week at the end of July…🤫

Back To School

A GIF from the movie

I’ve gone back to school today! I’m taking just one college course for the summer (a six-week basic English course) and it’s all online with no in-person meetings. I’ll admit: as someone who has done all of her academic schooling in person eons ago, it took me a bit to get the hang of online classes. Now I wish online classes existed when I was in college. I just completed the day’s assignments, and I’ll be taking more online classes for the upcoming Fall semester.

Why did I go back to school? For one big thing: a career change. All the classes I’ll be taking are prerequisites & suggested courses to get into a program I aim to be in within the next few years. I will write more about this in a future post.

 

 

Thanks, Amazon

🚨RANT ALERT!🚨

A few times a year, I like to run a Free Book Giveaway (FBG) for my eBook The Playgirl. One of those times usually takes place this month, since it’s Pride Month and my book is an LGBTQ+ fiction. I had everything scheduled for this weekend, including paying for promo spots in the newsletters for FreeBooksy and The Fussy Librarian (that would go out today).

And then I had to contact Amazon KDP to do a Price Match (price adjustment) for my book on their site. This is where the un-fun begins.

I’ve done this in the past whenever I want to run a FBG on both Amazon and non-Amazon eBook stores and, with the exception of one time, things have gone smoothly. When I went to make the request early Thursday (shortly after midnight, as the price of my book on other sites like Apple, Kobo, and Nook changed to Free then), I noticed Amazon KDP changed their “contact us” page. Gone is the form I used when I wanted to request a Price Match for my book, and now I have to use their chat feature that’s, yes, AI-generated. Say it with me: “BOOOOOOOOOOOO!”

This is what that contact form used to look like, by the way. Now authors gotta go through this shit. 

I was able to bypass the AI bullshit and get to a live agent, where I was given more un-fun news. The agent told me that they need more time to process the Price Match. I don’t know why they needed more time, and I had to let them know that I needed the price adjustment to be made right away as I had paid promos in those newsletters scheduled to run today. The last time I heard from KDP’s customer service was last night, I was told that they’re still in the process of doing the price match, and that it’s taking longer than usual. No shit.

I had an FBG scheduled from this past Thursday to end of Sunday, with paid promos going out today in the newsletters for FreeBooksy and The Fussy Librarian. That is no longer, and you can thank Amazon KDP for this mess. I’m unable to make Price Match requests for my book days in advance (AFAIK) as KDP needs links from other eBook stores as proof that my book is being sold at a different price, so I have to put in the request the day the sale/FBG starts. I also adjusted the price back to its normal selling price on other non-Amazon sites, and it took me literally a second to make the change, because Draft2Digital makes it that easy and I don’t have to go through AI garbage for that! (Although maybe my book is still for free on Nook and Kobo right now, and since there’s not much I can do about that, if you want a freebie…)

By the way, this is not the first time Amazon KDP ruined my FBG plans. I had another FBG planned last October, and a delay on their end messed up the scheduled promos I had planned then. It was the same situation as I’m going through right now, except it shouldn’t take so long for them to adjust the price. And they had the old contact form then.

If you follow me on Bluesky, the “something special” I posted about a week ago was supposed to be an FBG that would’ve dropped yesterday. And, I know, I’m evil for still doing business with Amazon. I’ll eventually leave them, I swear.

Written Word Media, whom I paid for promo in those two newsletters, was understanding of my situation, and I get to reschedule the promo at a later time free of charge. Also, there will be another sale for my book starting in July (albeit an exclusive one for Smashwords), and I’ll likely do another FBG at the end of July as I will be celebrating my book’s third anniversary. Amazon KDP better get their shit together by then.

***Update 6/28/26: Amazon KDP got back to me in a message that was obviously AI-generated *smdh* with them saying they “initiated” the price match that I just requested for them to cancel off. I have to keep an eye on my book’s price on Amazon/KDP and they told me to request a new Price Match (to its regular price) when the adjustment has been made. If it’s taking them this long to make my book free, I can only imagine how long they’ll take to adjust the price back to normal. Either way, y’all are getting a freebie on that blasted site.😭